I’m Not Desperate For A Relationship

A friend of mine posted this and it got me thinking about what I’ve leant from friends and family, from the relationships I’ve had and what God has taught me.
“I can’t wait til I have that person that motivates me in the little things. I can’t wait to clean together, cook together and decorate together… I can’t wait to be splayed out on the sofa together in unflattering comfy clothes watching our show. I can’t wait to have breakfast together before we go our separate ways for the day… I can’t wait to pray together and worship together, read scripture together and grow together I can’t wait to have a child and raise him/her with trips to the park, lakes and beaches. I can’t wait to teach them to walk, talk, read, write, paint and dance… I just can’t wait for that person who makes me actually want to do the dishes to come along and change my life forever.”

This was my response, I hope it encourages you.
I’m the same, I’ve felt God say, I don’t need to worry about it though, worrying or the eager “Can’t wait” doesn’t do any good. I think (and I’m not saying you are like this), people get hung up on the perfect relationship and that when the “Right woman/ man” comes along, then everything will be fine and dandy. It doesn’t work like that. There WILL be bumps in the road, but together with God’s gracious hand guiding you, you can overcome anything together. I think some people and in fact it’s probably more lonely people (I’ve been in this place myself once or twice), that people fall in love with the idea of being in love with someone, so when you search and meet someone, they don’t live up to the expectations of what your (people’s) idea of that person or relationship looks like. So from the start it is destined to fail or at the best have a very bumpy start.

So, with some hindsight, a bit of experience (mine and other peoples), and God guidance, I’ve learnt to be comfortable with who I am, after all if your not comfortable with yourself, how can you expect someone else to be comfortable with you? And wait on God to bring the “Correct Lady/Gentleman” into your life at the correct time, after all, God knows who He has right for you (like two parts of a jigsaw puzzle, fitting together perfectly).

God is Good