5. Enjoying your marriage
Even if marriages are made in heaven, as some maintain, they still have to be worked out in everyday life! We therefore need God to help us fulfil the commitment we made to each other on our wedding day. Loving, cherishing and serving each other in the love of Jesus is what marriage is all about. Here are a few tips:
A) Let God’s love mould your marriage
Develop intimacy with him, receive his love and give it away to each other (Matt. 22:37-39; Eph. 5:33). Be kind, patient and tender.
B) Talk and communicate with each other often
Take quality time to listen to each other and to share your thoughts, hopes and concerns. Discuss issues openly and prayerfully; make decisions together about finances, children or jobs etc. (1 Peter 5:6,7).
C) Do things together
Even though it is natural for people to have differing special interests or hobbies, make every effort to develop common interests. Avoid the things that will have you leading separate lives. Ask the Lord to show you ways in which you can serve him together.
D) Let God change you
Don’t try to change each other into your own mould! Give one another space to be different. If you think you need patience with your spouse, remember they probably need twice as much patience with you! Accept each other as you are and let the Holy Spirit make you both more like Jesus (2 Cor. 3: 17, 18; Gal. 5:22,23).
E) Live in forgiveness
Sometimes husbands and wives say or do hurtful things to each other (often without even realising it!). If these situations are not dealt with properly and promptly they will seriously mess up your relationship. Learning to say sorry, forgiving your husband or wife and then letting go of the offence is vital for the health of your marriage and your family. Remember, forgiveness and reconciliation are at the heart of what it means to be a Christian
(2 Cor. 5:17-19).